What if an introverted kid who spends her childhood making art alone in her room and secretly wishing she had superpowers grows up to become a headstrong artist and designer with lofty dreams only to find herself forever stuck in a teeny apartment plagued by perfectionism and nightmares. Until the day she discovers that her sassy misfit attitude is a superpower for getting herself unstuck and inspiring others to do the same.
Well, hello! I’m Alex and I’m in the process of getting my butt seriously unstuck.
Welcome to my Twinki-Winki world where a rebel can give life advice and a fashion misfit can give style tips. Oh, yeah. Because I’ve got me a philosophy, don’t ya know. And you can try it on for size.
My philosophy is all about getting unstuck and I like to call it inspired rebel living because that makes it sound all swanky. But honestly, it's pretty darn simple. It’s equal parts attitude, love of process, and satisfaction. And it goes like this:
The more you like being you, the more you thrive.
Yep, that’s the core belief. The more you like being you, the more you thrive. Thriving is all about feeling ease. It’s about how satisfied we feel when we’re moving in the direction of our desires.
When we’re feeling stuck and frustrated about our lives, that’s a clear indication we’re not thriving. But you don’t need me to tell you that, do ya? Nope. We all know how awful it is to feel small when there’s a deep yearning inside of us to dream big, act big, and love big.
That’s where inspired rebel living comes in.
The goal is to bring ease into our day-to-day. And as strange as it may sound, ease is not something we can achieve. It’s something we need to allow into our lives.
Okay, so let’s get going. Getting our butts unstuck has five parts:
Part 1. The more you like being you, the better you feel.
Part 2. The better you feel, the more you belong to yourself.
Part 3. The more you belong to yourself, the bigger you live.
Part 4. The bigger you live, the more you allow.
Part 5. The more ease you allow into your life, the more you thrive.
Getting unstuck and living the life you want begins with liking yourself:
1. The more you like being you, the better you feel.
How: Express your creativity.
Today you like being you.
Your happiness depends on how much you like yourself.
Feeling good enough to like yourself requires a whole lot of honesty, compassion, and guts. That’s where you gotta learn to accept all of yourself. The light and the dark qualities within you. Belonging to all of yourself is the key to belonging to the world.
Expressing your creativity is an act of self-love.
There is no right or wrong way for you to be you. We go through the world with our strengths and our flaws. It’s all part of being human. And the more love you show yourself, the more love you’ll have to share with others. It’s just that simple.
Here's The Twinki-Winki Manifesto. Read that puppy out loud, why don't ya!
And you can download the following worksheets from the Twinki-Winki GOODIES page:
• Freebie PDF worksheet ALL OF ME, about embracing duality
• Freebie PDF worksheet I AM, about getting to know yourself
• Freebie PDF worksheet LETTER TO SELF, about making the most of our lives
More reading for you here:
• All Of Me, All Of You blog post
• Super Luca And Your Real Superpower blog post
• Be Your Own Rainbow blog post
• Go Ahead And Be A Monster But Don’t Forget To Smile blog post
2. The better you feel, the more you belong to yourself.
How: Treat yourself with kindness.
Be your own bestie.
Loving life starts with being your own best friend.
Yeah, we gotta do stuff like forgiving ourselves for messing up. Letting go when we feel stuck. Cheering ourselves on when nobody else does. And treating ourselves with kindness. Keeping ourselves good company might very well be the hardest thing we’ll ever learn to do.
We go through life loving others as a kind of practice. We’re learning to not only love and be loved by others but also to love being alive. To love Life.
When we can be in love with Life, we can live inspired lives. And feeling inspired is essential to our happiness.
You can download the following worksheet from the Twinki-Winki GOODIES page:
• Freebie PDF worksheet BESTIES FOREVER, about acting like your own best friend every day
More reading for you here:
• Loving Life blog post
3. The more you belong to yourself, the bigger you live.
How: Be intentional about who you’re becoming.
Fabulous is as fabulous does.
It’s living our values that enables us to show up for ourselves.
What we desire is to live authentically with the fullness of who we are. And that includes all the abundance we desire for our lives. Whatever it is we need to thrive is part of us living authentically. In other words, if Life is about figuring out how to show up as the truest version of ourselves, then our desires lead the way. They guide us. We need to desire.
All those things we want, we only want them because it’s fun to be on our way to them. It’s the process of becoming that thrills us. It’s what makes us feel grateful to be alive.
Not letting ourselves dream big is how we hide.
More reading for you here:
• Owning Our Desires blog post
• My Colors Inside blog post
4. The bigger you live, the more you allow.
How: Be in love with the process of making a beautiful life.
Create momentum in the direction of your desires.
When making art, it’s never about what you’re creating, but how you’re creating it. The same goes for life.
Remember life is supposed to be fun. Show up with a grateful heart and a curious mind. Let things get messy. Stop paddling upstream. Focus on what feels good. Be willing to try. And keep in mind that you keep getting better as you go.
Whenever we feel stuck, the trick is to use the action of creating momentum to our advantage. We can create momentum that carries us to new better-feeling thoughts.
Read more on the Creating Momentum For Getting Unstuck blog post. And I’m pretty darn sure you’ll love the Creating Momentum guide (PDF) I created as a companion to that post!
For the last twenty-plus years I’ve been following my joy as an artist. And now I’ve condensed all those years of art-making-wisdom into a simple yet powerful guide. Seriously. It’s taken me forever. But it turned out pretty darn groovy. Smile.
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5. The more ease you allow into your life, the more you thrive.
How: Let go of valuing difficulty as a measure of your worthiness.
The life you want wants you. Let it be easy.
The joy of getting older is an eagerness for ease in your life. Satisfaction is the goal.
Your future self is thriving. She’s following her joy and giving her joy. She’s your version of fabulous. And she’s planted those desires inside you so that you can bloom into her. If you can start thinking like her now, you can adjust your behavior to support you:
• by treating yourself with kindness now
• by expressing your creativity and not waiting for a special occasion
• by feeling satisfied about being on your journey of becoming
All that’s required is the discipline to remember what you want.
You can download the following checklist from the Twinki-Winki GOODIES page:
• Freebie PDF checklist PRACTICE HAPPY, about doing little things that feel good every day