I remember being a teenager and having these insane debilitating crushes on cute seniors in high school. If one of them passed me in the hallway and noticed me, I’d practically faint. As if I’d won the Miss America contest. And then I’d scribble our initials inside little hearts all over my notebooks. For hours. I’m pretty sure I burned all those.
Thank goodness we graduate from one-sided delusional crushes to reciprocated love. And we get to experience the most beautiful thing there is: how to love and be loved in return. I think there may be a song about that.
Actually, there’s another kind of love we experience when we’re young before we ever start dating anyone. It’s the love we feel for our besties. When we’re teens it’s like our lives would make no sense without our best friends. We talk to them incessantly. About EVERYTHING. While we barely speak two words to our parents.
Yep, that “besties love” is unique to a time in our lives when everything feels upside down.
Falling in love is something we're made to do. It’s in our DNA. It makes us feel totally invincible and totally vulnerable all at the same time. As in we think we can do anything in spite of being scared out of our minds. In other words, we’re completely and utterly inspired.
And feeling inspired is essential to our happiness.
The more I think about it, the more I realize that we go through life loving others as a kind of practice. We’re learning to not only love and be loved by others, but also to love being alive. To love Life.
When we can be in love with Life, we can live inspired lives.
And loving Life starts with being your own best friend.
My Twinki-Winki mission is to inspire you to be your own bestie. And we all know how we treat our besties, right? I mean, we already know how to be there for them. What we gotta learn is how to be there for ourselves. We gotta find joy in our day-to-day. And that may take a little attitude adjusting, because you need to believe that:
You are already worthy of all you desire.
Thinking you don’t deserve the good you desire is what keeps you from getting it.
We’ve all grown up believing that our success depends on us being better and doing more. Well, how’s that going for ya? Because in my case, it’s got me dealing with chronic tension. As in pain in my shoulders for as long as I can remember. But things are getting better because I’ve finally accepted that my success and happiness don’t depend on me doing more. It’s such a relief.
I’ve realized that my success and happiness depend on me feeling good about myself. Trying to always do more means I don’t feel I deserve to feel good right now. I’ve gotta work for it to deserve it, if ya know what I mean. But there will never come a time that I’ll feel good enough if that’s the broken record playing in my head. And where’s the joy in that?
Twinki-Winki is feeling fab whenever you darn well please. Made for your machine-washable-life. Amen.
Here’s the joy in Twinki-Winki:
• Joy is being able to feel fab in your day-to-day. And not waiting for a special occasion.
• Joy is knowing that dressing fab can fit into your machine-washable-life.
If you've read my previous post, then you know I’ve got Twinki-Winki slogans to remind me to set the intention to practice happy every day. So it should be of no surprise that I’ve also got me some Twinki-Winki Life mottos that support my attitude of living with joy. Here they are:
Life motto number 1: Life is a come-as-you-are party.
And your only job is to feel good. But for that you’ve gotta accept that you always deserve to feel good. You’ve gotta feel worthy enough to allow yourself to feel good.
Life motto number 2: Fill your life with art and the joy will follow.
Find art that makes you feel good to be you. Let it delight your senses and lift your spirit. And then milk it for all it’s worth. Because art is the stuff that makes you feel grateful to be alive. And that is what joy is all about.
Twinki-Winki is all about helping women feel fab whenever they darn well please.
Other brands make hard to care for products that you can only wear on special occasions. And that’s because they use the wrong materials that require special care. And many times they make their products so lackluster that you never feel like wearing them. So you forget you have them. The end result is a closet full of trendy products that never get worn. And that’s a crying shame.
Twinki-Winki fashion accessories are no-fuss fabulous. This means they’re designed to be easy to care for. And Twinki-Winki boa scarves are made to be wearable art. So they’re not only easy to care for, but also made by hand in super limited quantities to bring you joy forever.
Life is too short to put feeling fabulous on hold. You gotta twinki-winki.
Freebie PDF checklist BESTIES FOREVER
Here’s a worksheet about things you can do in order to act like your own best friend every day. You can download it from the Twinki-Winki GOODIES page.
“I felt in love, not with anything or anybody in particular but everything.”
- George Harrison
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